The Spock Paradox: Baby Doctor, Benjamin Spock’s Advice for a New Parenting
10.13081/kjmh.2025.34.751
- Author:
Namhee LEE
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Author Information
1. Research Professor, Ewha Womans University, Ewha Historical Institutions
- Publication Type:Article
- From:Korean Journal of Medical History
2025;34(3):751-779
- CountryRepublic of Korea
- Language:English
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Abstract:
This paper focuses on a central paradox in the childrearing advice of American pediatrician and beloved “baby doctor” Benjamin Spock: his seemingly permissive approach to control, fostered through a new psychology, in fact represented a new mode of control. The study explores this paradox by closely examining how Spock developed his ideas on parental self-control. By shifting the foundation of self-control, his advice supported the emergence of a new form of authority—strengthened by more internalized and elaborate guidelines. Challenging the widespread belief that Spock’s methods were simply looser or more lenient, this study traces the transformation of his childrearing ideas from authoritative and visible forms of control to subtle and internal ones in the mid-twentieth-century United States.Spock’s influential The Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care revolutionized twentieth-century parenting by emphasizing parents’ confidence in their own judgment and the critical role of emotional maturity in childrearing. Rather than advocating rigid rules or permissiveness, Spock focused on how parents could cultivate self-control and emotional regulation to promote healthier parent-child relationships. A core tenet of his philosophy was distinguishing between controllable and uncontrollable aspects of parenting, which helped alleviate feelings of helplessness and inadequacy among parents. By fostering mothers’ self-awareness and encouraging recognition of their individual limits, Spock provided a framework that enhanced emotional comfort and a sense of control during childcare—benefiting both parents and their children alike.Spock’s psychoanalytic interests deeply influenced his focus on parental emotional control, particularly the mother’s crucial role in fostering a child’s emotional growth and self-confidence. He maintained that a mother’s unconditional love and consistent presence were indispensable, warning parents against showing dissatisfaction with their child’s flaws, as such expressions could undermine the child’s self-esteem. Parents were encouraged to regulate negative emotions—such as disappointment and frustration—especially in challenging contexts like feeding difficulties or toilet training, where parental negativity might provoke defiance or resistance. For Spock, emotional maturity, characterized by patience and measured reactions, was essential for effective discipline and for mitigating undesirable behaviors in children.Spock’s broader influence challenged prevailing mid-twentieth-century norms that often prioritized strict discipline and emotional restraint. He promoted a flexible, affectionate approach that recognized children as individuals with unique needs and personalities. This philosophy invited parents to trust their instincts while balancing emotional regulation, enabling them to respond sensitively and effectively to their children. Spock’s work fostered a cultural shift toward more humane and psychologically informed parenting, shaping generations of families with its blend of psychoanalytic insight and practical advice.
